The Gray Divorce

That's the new term I learned today.

No, it doesn't refer to a Mr. & Mrs. Gray who ended up in Splitsville. Nor does it necessarily refer to older people who get a divorce only after a lengthy marriage . . . although we ARE seeing more and more of that around here lately.

Anyway, the term "Gray Divorce" refers to those situations surrounding some break-ups where there is no black and white, no clearly-defined boundaries. Things are still fuzzy, either because things haven't been clearly stipulated in the marital settlement agreement or, worse, non-monetary questions go unresolved. (Such as, "Who gets to spend which holidays with the kids?" Or, "How do we divide up our mutual friends?")

The worst unresolved issues apparently are the emotional ones that you can't solve even with an army of lawyers and accountants. You've got to sort thru those yourself, or get a shrink to help you. But, until you get some resolution, you're going to be stuck in one of these new-fangled "gray divorce" situations.

And, that can't be a good place!